Myths and facts about ANGER

Myths and facts about ANGER You have permission to publish this article electronically or in print, free of charge, as long as the bylines and the article in its entirety. A copy of your publication is required. Send a mailto: drwallin@drwallin.comMYTHS and facts about ANGERBy Pauline Wallin, Ph.DAuthor of "Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-injurious behavior" Word count: 567Copyright Pauline Wallin, Ph.D. 2004. All rights reserved MYTHS AND FACTS ABOUT ANGER Although anger is one of the most common feelings that people have, is the least understood. These rates are likely to know you:? If someone hits you, hit? EM back. Tu the other cheek. ? Don? T still angry. Have you noticed that contradict one another? That? S, because rabies is a very complex emotion. The attempt to simplify the following errors: 1 All of this hurts, anger or destructive2. This anger is an all-or-nothing phenomenon3. If not? T out your anger, it builds and explodes OUT4. The anger of people yell and scream a lot5. Anger management means that your mouth ===> Here are the facts: 1 NOT ALL anger is unhealthy or DESTRUCTIVE.Sometimes anger is justified. For example, if they have been betrayed by a friend, or if you have been physically attacked by someone or if it is a great social injustice - all these are times when anger is appropriate. Biologically speaking, your anger is adrenaline goes, and goes action.On other hand, the hissy fit far beyond that people have mild irritation unhealthy and destructive. Anger has serious consequences for health. Research shows that among the risk factors for heart disease, chronic anger is the most important indicator - as well as smoking, obesity and high blood pressure. Temper tantrums and anger are rarely useful. In reality, they affect not only the people? S respect for you but its respect.2. Anger is not an all-or-nothing phenomenon. Anger typically occurs in degrees, ranging from mild annoyance to intense rage. Some people have a problem labeling negative feelings. They believe any experience of hostility, as an intense, urgent crisis, even if it is only a momentary frustration. These people tend to be more active? Inner Brat? The mountains of molehills.3. It is not always necessary to make your ANGER OUT.Anger not like steam in a kettle. It is not necessary to avoid explosions. Although? S true increase the load when you get angry thoughts to live, you can leave the stress, without a new outbreak or tirade.4. Not all people angry or YELL Screamin fact, many people express their anger to themselves, or so you think. Even if you do not? T come right and say? Are you crazy? they show in their behavior - by? passive-aggressive. They sulk, they? Sound? on their voice, that slamming doors, etc. These people have an inner Brat I call? The Smolders. They know what kind? King angry, but not? T know exactly what are they? Re about.5 angry. Anger management does not mean that the mouth SHUT.Anger Management includes your inner Brat or something that you say? Ll regret later. E 'on you to the calm, cold-blooded assessment of the situation and, finally, a reasonable extent. With practice, this can be accomplished in a matter of anger seconds.Effective management means leaing to distinguish what is really angry about a situation a value, and what is just outside the interior on fry reaction. It also means that leaing to express your anger directly and constructively, without any emotional control. Not only are you less stressed by your anger, but you can also get better results. About the Author Pauline Wallin, Ph.D. is a psychologist in Camp Hill, PA, and author of "Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-injurious behavior" (beyond words Publishing, 2001) Visit for more information and to subscribe to their free, monthly Inner Brat Newsletter.