New Year New Love

New Year New Love January tends to be a horrible month. For many people, the loneliness grows, and that we long to be brought to life by the passion of love. This passionate romantic love is not only a form of love, is a psychological package consists of a set of beliefs, ideals, attitudes and expectations. The passion, romantic love is the greatest power of the system to a new report. We are able to lead the wild? Crazy? out of our heads. In the short period, gender, transcendence and fullness of ecstasy seem the only important values in life. In the long term, they are not aware of how contradictory ideas exist in our unconscious mind and its impact our reactions and behavior. We have automatic assumptions about who the other person and what is coming. Blinded by love, the more we find ourselves with the sentiments and ignoring waing signs, but obviously do not love romantic fantasy be.Even not only the love of someone, it means that we have? In love? and that this is somehow connected to another human being to eliminate forever the lives of our pain. Our belief is that our unconscious lover or spouse always give us a sense of intensity and we are not safety.When? In love? who spend much of our time with a deep sense of loneliness and frustration at our inability to truly love and committed relationships. Usually, the blame to others? It is not correct? default or in any fundamental way. We want to surprise or shock therapy may recognize that they have to change. This is our attitudes and expectations about other people and relationships that must fixing.When a first man and woman fall in love, he realizes that rarely can be of two different species, some have lost the search for every piece of self . For many men have lost their feminine side --- feelings of brotherhood, of community, a stream of souls. Unlived start looking for his feminine side by a woman and I think the magic will remain just the way it looks. Many women who, despite their idealize masculine values, they feel inferior if they are not sufficiently logical, rational, linear thinkers. They feel inferior and have low self esteem because they feel or intuit what is happening, but can not verbalize precisely.These that women spend much of their energy into efforts to make a loving relationship with a man and face appears his incomprehensible feelings, ideas and reactions. At the same time, often befuddled by the flow and the flow of its myriad of emotions. It 'almost as if they were speaking two different languages: Ella: a romance. Him: a function of y? Please correct the problem. Sometimes the roles are reversed, and that the practice may be pragmatic, to be swept off your feet.When two people here are very romantic, obscures the need to join all potential problems. Be? In love? wounds.Ah seems to cure all, but what happens when the veil was lifted and the time and the functions of everyday life begin to invade? In some ways, the qualities that once seemed? Perfect? are now only pain. At this point a young person has the opportunity to develop a real relationship work, or divide. Real, long term and must be love? In love? are experiences that are worlds apart.During this new year, if you are alone or in a relationship, short or long term, think about what you need in order to heal their wounds and / or your partner to lea with, in order to become whole. This is a very difficult process, requiring much effort. This new year, you're ready to make the effort? Life is too difficult to do alone, Dr. D. Dorree Lynn, Ph.D. The author is Dr. Lynn Dorree co-founder of the Institute of Advanced Studies of Psychotherapy and a practicing physician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and is the editorial board of their publication, Voices. It 'also a columnist in Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetown. Dr. Lynn is an important and well known speaker in the conference circuit.